Herpes Dating Is Possible…We Even Encourage It.
Your dating life doesn’t have to end with a herpes diagnosis unless YOU decide it does. Sure, there may be challenges and setbacks, but herpes isn’t the end of the world. Millions of people living with herpes also live normal lives. They date, get married, have kids…you get the idea.
Believe it or not, there are some truly amazing people out there who have herpes (yes, including you!). We know this because it’s something our members share. They come from all backgrounds and professions, each with their own story. Some choose to only date others with herpes while others venture out and date regular, everyday people.
Whatever path you choose, HWerks is here to offer guidance and support. Friendships naturally form, connections grow, and our community genuinely welcomes the supportive relationships created here. Seeing our members happy, confident, and thriving together is truly what inspires and motivates us.
Being part of the HWerks herpes support network can significantly boost your confidence. Our members offer valuable advice because they understand firsthand what you’re experiencing—they’ve likely been where you are now and can guide you through it. If you have herpes dating questions, our members have lots of answers!
Herpes and Dating: It’s Okay If It’s Awkward at First.
Not many people expect to be reading this. And yet, here you are, probably feeling a little awkward. The road probably wasn’t easy. Herpes has its own unique set of emotions, thoughts and circumstances that the average person couldn’t begin to comprehend. Pat yourself on the back, throw up a virtual high-five or otherwise congratulate yourself as you see fit. A simple nod will also suffice. You’ve done well.
Thousands of people have come here for the same reasons and have made the decision to join. Yes, it may be awkward at first but for most, that feeling is quickly replaced by a sense of relief and acceptance. A great number of friends have been made here, relationships have blossomed and we have quite a few marriages that have come about from people who never thought it would happen to them because of us. Are you next?
You Are Not Alone. Millions Date and Live with Herpes.
The percentage of people living with herpes is thought to be at least 1 in 5 people. That is a LOT of people! Millions of people are living with herpes and living their lives. Finding others who share your experiences isn’t always easy, especially if you’re not comfortable sharing your status openly. You could announce to the world that you have herpes and are looking for a date but most people will opt for something more subtle. Thankfully, the internet now offers ways to discreetly and confidently connect with others who understand exactly what you’re going through. Herpes dating today is far simpler and more supportive than it was decades ago.
Do Only Promiscuous People Have Herpes?
Absolutely not. Herpes can affect anyone, regardless of their sexual history. Many people living with herpes contracted it from partners who were unaware of their own status or who didn’t disclose it. Having herpes isn’t a reflection of your character or choices—it’s simply a common health condition that millions manage daily.
Herpes Dating: Never Settle for Less.
Herpes does not define you. It is just something you have, not your identity. Tomorrow, you’ll wake up and continue being the person you’ve always been: a best friend, a parent, a sibling, or somebody’s smile. You will be the same as you were before herpes. Remember this whenever dating feels uncomfortable. Never settle just because you have herpes. Our supportive community can help you build the confidence to connect with the person you deserve.
What Do People With Herpes Look Like?
People with herpes look like you, us, her or that guy over there. They look like regular people because they are and herpes does not have a “Type”. You interact with people living with herpes every day unless you live on a remote island. They are doctors, professors, cashiers or someone delivering your package from Amazon. They are not all strangers and the odds are that you already know someone with herpes. They simply haven’t shared it with you. Herpes does not care who you are, what you look like or where you come from. It does not discriminate.
Yes, You Need To Inform Your Partner.
“Hmmm. I think I am going to try to get herpes today,” said no one…ever. The vast majority of people living with herpes were not given a choice. One day, they woke up and that day their lives were changed, forever. Don’t be that person. You are better than that. Tell them you have herpes. This is also known as “Giving the talk” and yes, it will probably be a difficult conversation to have. Many prefer dating others with herpes to avoid these difficult conversations, but transparency builds trust and respect in any relationship.
Don’t Tell Them Right Before Sex…Oh, By The Way.
Despite unscrupulous companies claiming the contrary, there is no cure for herpes. Condom and suppressive therapy can reduce the risks but don’t guarantee prevention. If you have herpes, own it and accept the very real consequences that it can bring. There is a time and place for telling a potential partner about you having herpes. In the heat of the moment is not that time. Dating with herpes carries responsibilities and respect for your partner’s choices. Hey, we never said herpes dating would be a walk in the park.
The Right People Will Accept You. The Wrong May Not.
Everyone experiences rejection. How you handle it sets you apart. If you’re resilient and confident (as we believe you are), setbacks won’t stop you. When life catches you off-guard, you regroup and persevere. Dating with herpes is the same concept except the punches can sometimes hurt deeper. The right people will look past herpes and see the awesome person you know you are. Sure, you may hit some speed bumps along the way but if you keep moving forward, you will eventually get to where you are going.
Herpes Dating Doesn’t Mean Both Partners Must Have It.
Your perfect partner might not have herpes, and that’s okay. Love and understanding often overcome a medical diagnosis. Dating with herpes does not mean your dating pool is restricted only to those with herpes. Sure, it may involve some unique circumstances and a few hurdles but it’s a big pond and there’s room for everybody. Within our community, conversations are easier, stigma is nonexistent and judgement is left at the door. We offer support, advice and encouragement no matter who you choose to date.
A Cold Sore is Not The Good Herpes. It Is Still Herpes.
A cold sore is oral herpes, most commonly known as HSV1. It is, by far, the most common. Oral HSV2 is extremely rare. HSV1, on the other hand, isn’t so picky and will reside in both places. Herpes can be passed by a cold sore. Yes, it’s a real thing. Luckily, the majority of the population has oral HSV1. Just be extra cautious when that cold sore rears its ugly head and know the risks.
Now Is The Time. Put Yourself Out There. Up Your Game.
Dating is hard enough. Dating with herpes is even harder. To make the transition easier, use herpes as an excuse to improve yourself. Use it as the motivation to quit smoking, buy a gym membership, or anything else to present a better version of you to the world. Just do something. Do it out of spite if you have to and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. A happy, healthy you is a better you. A better you is more likely to attract the person you deserve.
Be the Reason Someone Smiles: Join HWerks Today.
Yes, you deserve to date and have a relationship and put a smile on that special someone’s face. Your next great friendship or meaningful connection could already be here. Our lifetime membership means you can take your time at your own pace and prepare for the real world. If you stumble out of the gate, we will be here to help pick you up and get you back on track. People join HWerks every day, changing their lives and potentially yours, too.
Until next time, stay awesome!
-Team HWerks
HWerks is more than just a website – it’s a vibrant, supportive community dedicated to empowering individuals living with herpes. We’re committed to breaking down stigma, providing reliable resources, and advancing meaningful connections. Whether you’re seeking support or simply want to make new friends who understand your journey, HWerks is your place. Join Us!
